Spot, Stop and Cut Off The Pretenders In Your Life

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We all hate pretenders. We all acknowledge that pretenders are amongst us. We all believe pretenders secretly wish for our downfall. We all are unsure how to separate pretenders from the real friends in our lives.

There are different tested ways to spot pretenders. Once pretenders are spotted then you can stop and cut them out of your life. No one needs pretenders in their life. Pretenders bring negativity and destructions everywhere they are.

First, who is a pretender? A pretender is a hypocrite, a closet hater and an enemy pretending to be a friend. Pretenders have two faces and multiple personalities. Some may say they have mental problem. Common attributes of pretenders are;

1) They are overly nice

2) Agree to your every word (in your presence that is)

3) Humble to you but arrogant to others

4) They hardly talk about themselves

5) Always point out supposedly enemies to you

6) Never invests into your business, idea or work

7) Exaggerates a lot

8) Always voices out their possession of strong morals

9) Their smiles are not reflected in their eyes

10) Never attempt to defend you in public but supports you in private.

Now that we know the attributes of pretenders; it is easy to spot them. These are five clues that show you the pretenders in your life.

1) A person who over-praises your accomplishment and uses flowery words on you for no good reason.

2) A person who talks about everyone behind their backs ( We all love a little gossip but anyone that gossips about everyone is a potential pretender).

3) A person who is critical of others behind their backs but says zilch in their presence.

4)A person that says things to make himself/herself look good (when it is not a job interview), profess to uphold morals but his/her actions reflect the opposite.

5) When secret you share with a person becomes general knowledge (A big pretender is in your life)

If you have friends, colleagues, relatives, neighbours and acquaintances that act like the above mentioned, it is not a coincidence. You've got yourself a pretender. It is time to port away from that relationship.

Stop and cut off pretenders from your life by;

1) Keeping away from them

2) Make them know you do not want anything to do with them

3) Do not keep mutual friends with them; in case of relatives and colleagues, ensure not to reveal anything about yourself to relatives and colleagues that are friends with pretenders.

Final word: Pretenders are very deadly, they have killed, they have conned and they have destroyed.