Parenthood Just Like Marriage Is Not For All

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We have seen marriage succeed. We have seen marriage crash like a pack of cards. We have heard and seen people get killed staying in unhealthy marriages. We have seen people commit crimes to save marriages. It might be right to say that not all whom are married ought to be married. Some are mentally immature; few are irresponsible others are too selfish to be married. Yet it has not stopped such persons from venturing into the marriage institution. This could be one of the reasons for broken marriages.

Ideally, parenthood should come after marriage but this is no longer the case: we have more persons having children out of wedlock. Parenthood like marriage is not meant for everyone; not all who can be parents have the capacity to be one.

Parenthood requires a lot of work. Unfortunately, not everyone is strong enough for a lot of work. Many have children today because it is societal ideal. Children are very tasking beings; they require good deal of patience, time and flexibility. They are also very expensive to have and care for.

A man who still loves keeping late nights; getting unrelated to work and getting drunk has no business being a father. A woman who prefers to eat out or watch TV to cleaning her house and cooking has no business being a mother.

Any human who cannot maintain a high degree of patience and calmness; a person who gets angry easily and shouts hateful words most times should not be raising a child. Anyone who cannot make out time for others – how can the person make out time for his/her child? People who make money that can barely clothe and feed them should not be thinking of parenthood (there are too many hungry children on the street, do not bring more).

If you believe an eight year old child is old enough to go and come back from school, church or market on their own, do everyone a favour and pause parenthood. Parenthood is not about fertility: that you are fertile is not enough reason to a parent. You must have the mental capacity, patience, money, resource, time, integrity, decency and morals to be one. There are too many children on the streets. There are too many teenagers turning bad. There are too many youths going the criminal routes. It all started from bad parenthood.

Be honest with yourself; do not choose parenthood when it is not for you.