Husband Is An Overrated Commodity

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The world still holds the erroneous belief that every woman needs a husband to be complete: a husband is regarded as the only priceless commodity a woman should have second to her virginity. The husband is seen as provider and protector.

A notion which has made most men believe they are the next best thing since agege bread. No one seems to care if these men have good enough personality to make good partners. In fact women are encouraged to work hard in measuring up to men with questionable characters and standards. At the end, when a woman allows herself a bit of truth; the realisation hits that husbands are not all that.

For one, husbands are meant to give a sense of security, protect and shield a wife from harm’s way. In real life husbands spend most of their time with fellow male friends or lovers as the case may be; most husbands spend little time with their family even when not working. They leave the wife to do the protecting and shielding alone.

A husband should be a good exemplary leader so that his followers, the wife and children may imitate and follow. A husband that sees adultery as his right, beats up his wife at any little provocation, sexually abuses little girls or boys – pointing to the devil as the cause and comes home drunk or high is no exemplary leader. What is such a man teaching his daughters about men? What is he showing his sons is the acceptable man behaviour? What of the embarrassment and psychological torture he is putting the wife through without a care? 

Children may be closer to their mother but they are most likely to accept their father’s actions as the acceptable world view. The sad thing is most men do not see anything wrong with this behaviour. A behavior that puts distrust in homes, makes wives bitter, promotes violence as the only way to settle issues, turns a daughter into a man hater and a son into everything a man ought not to be. A family with this type as leader will hardly respect such a leader – when the main leader is not respected then the vice (wife) would certainly be powerless in controlling the family in his absence or presence.

Husbands are supposed to be the main bread winner; provider ultimate. Look around you; we have a rather large number of women doing the providing for the family. Where the woman is not the major provider; she is an active assistant.

Why therefore are husbands looked at as God’s best blessing to any woman when most men cannot do these two important things- provide and protect.  It becomes that husbands are not what they are made to. Any woman who can provide such things and more for herself should be proud and hold her head up high. The society should celebrate such women. They are doing things set for men alone. They are proof husbands are overrated commodity.